As black parents we are expected to instill morals, values, and a desire to be a progressive and productive citizen into our children. Society is depending on us to produce valuable adults that give more than they take, leave a great experience when interacting with other citizens, and adhere to the written and unspoken rules of society. As black parents many of us excel in this part of life. We are far superior in teaching our kids what they need to know because we know that our success in giving our offspring the tools they need in this society is often a matter of life and death, literally.
So, it shouldn’t come as a surprise to us when a giving young lady such as Jordan Rodgers steps in to help her mother Erin Austin who was planning a trip to Disneyland, but unfortunately lost her job recently. Ms. Austin apparently taught her daughter the industrious lesson of supply and demand which led Jordan Rodgers to purchase some bottles of water to sell outside of her home across from AT&T stadium to Giant fans. She was a young lady who saw an opportunity to help her family and went into action.
Sadly, what also doesn’t come as a surprise to us is the nearby white person fully practicing white privilege, intimidation, and using their insecurity card. Alison Ettel aka Permit Patty became so annoyed or threatened at the actions of this young lady that she was determined to engage in a dispute with her and her mom over whether or not the young lady had a permit to sell water. White people, I say this with every vengeful, sarcastic and intentional bone in my body, ”Mind yo (expletive) business!” Ms. Patty claims the young lady’s yelling was preventing her from doing her work, so Ms. Patty took her instigating to the next level with a new low by pretending to call the police on young Jordan Rodgers.
Since this story went viral, I am happy to announce that a contributor has purchased tickets for Jordan Rodgers and her family to go to Disneyland and Alison Ettel has received much warranted and continuous backlash for attempting to derail the entrepreneurial spirit of a talented young lady. Her white tears shows it all, but white tears are not a consolation prize for your destructive actions so cry me a river please and thank you.
The damage is done and the intrusive actions of emboldened white citizens is not a laughing matter at all. We have seen this happen many times recently. From BBQ Becky to Jogger Joe as well as a recent incident at a Chili’s Restaurant in Abeville, La. where the manager called the police on black customers who had recently left the restaurant and were socializing outside. Who knows how many other times the police have been called on black people because of insecurities and ignorance. I wonder how many of these calls have ended in fines for black people, unwarranted jail time for black people, and even black lives being lost. Here it is again yet another practice that we have seen before: Black people being harassed for just existing. This isn’t a coincidence; it’s strategic. Black people need to become more strategic in our everyday living. Our very lives may depend on it.
Honestly, education wasn’t my first career.
It was 2007 and I was 7 months pregnant with my now 10-year old daughter. Hustling, walking and grinding as a realtor didn’t seem appealing anymore, especially with an infant. I wondered, “What could I do to have summers off with my daughter as she grew up?”
Being an educator, the summer break is the one that I enjoy the most – it’s the time where I can spend countless hours with my own daughter, after she’s had to share me with hundreds of other children throughout the school year.
While this is not an exhaustive list, here are some cool things to do with your kids this summer, that won’t break the bank and fill your days with priceless memories!
1. Cook a meal together.
I’m not the best cook and the word “chef” should never be synonymous with me, so www.myrecipes.com is my best friend.
2. Visit the library and attend some of their awesome events!
Literacy is a foundational skill that should be strengthened even in the summer. Use the summer to check out books your child is interested in (school doesn’t always have interesting texts!) and while you’re there, check out some of the great events planned throughout the summer. Click here for Memphis Public Library site.
3. Enrich your Memphis experience by visiting the many museums!
Memphis is saturated with great history in all areas, from music to art! Click here to see a list of museums and the days you and your family can visit for FREE!
4. Play Charades!
There’s nothing like seeing my daughter imitate me – especially how I act when I’m upset and she’s in trouble!
5. Make a video!
The current generation of kids is more savvy than I’ll ever be with technology! Take lots of videos and pictures and create a mini-movie with apps and even with your iPhone!
6. Explore current events together, discussing the “Black Experience”
Before we had books, we relied on oral history and storytelling to provide us with gems of our history. The world our black children are living in is very different than we lived in and comes with much more to be discussed. Take time this summer and ask your children about their experience, how it feels to #growupblack and what #parentingwhileblack feels like for you.
7. Love on each other!
In my family, we often say that giving time is being “loved on”. Time spent together is more precious than anything; it can’t be replaced or replenished. With whatever you do this summer, do it WITH your kids! We would be surprised what memories they hold onto and how much we’d learn about each other in the process.
As long as I’m an educator and a mother, I will take delight in summer breaks. It’s not only a time to replenish and recharge for the upcoming school year, but it’s a time where I get to love on my black daughter and show her how much MAGIC she has!
And stay tuned for the weekly series, Parenting While Black, debuting in July!
Change is made when Black women in Louisiana set the policy agenda, build their leadership capacities to lobby for that agenda, and mobilize voters to support candidates who are aligned with that agenda. SHE works with and holds accountable decision makers and elected officials to deliver policy victories from SHE’s policy agenda. SHE implements a multi-pronged strategy to advance Black women’s issues in Louisiana and works with influencers to ensure that their work improves community members lived experience.
• All women are deserving of access to quality healthcare. To provide it is not only a commitment to the individual, but to families across Louisiana;
• All women have the right to economic freedom and equity so that they are not forced into making unhealthy decisions about their personal well-being or the well-being of their families in order to survive;
• The criminal justice system should not treat any member of the community differently than the other. To do so based on race or gender identity has a disparaging impact on already marginalized communities, their family members, and families across Louisiana as a • whole;
• Universal access to quality education is a community commitment to sustainable households;
• Strong voter engagement allows all members of the city and state to be represented and heard in an effort to ensure that all of our Constitutional guarantees are safeguarded
Louisiana is still the worst state nationwide for children.
Now, I know you’re thinking, “What does that statement have to do with Fatherhood or Father’s Day?”
As I thought about writing a post for Father’s Day, I didn’t want to sound mundane or say something that was cliche with no substance at all. As I scrolled my Instagram timeline, I happened upon the article, “Louisiana is still the worst state nationwide for children, reports say.” After thinking about the study from the international aid group Save the Children that was included in the article, I came to some conclusions.
The article did present some solid reasons to support the title. The article included the infant mortality rate, homicide rate, and high school dropout rates. Data was pulled from several different government agencies. To save the children of the great state of Louisiana, Save the Children concluded that federal, state, and local governments should, “respond and invest accordingly.”
If Save the Children thinks solutions are going to come from the government then they have a warped sense of reality. I’ll tell you where solutions are coming from! The answers are in fathers and they amazing support systems in our community When I think about fatherhood, I think about all of the people who allow us to strive, thrive, and stay alive in spite of. Fathers and the family, friends, and community members who still instill values, morals, and goodness into their children day after day. Now don’t get me wrong, I do acknowledge there is a need to be active and engaged in your community, but, when you create a study from data collected, you leave out the very soul of a people and community who are moving forward progressively each and every day. We are our own government who give unto the lives of our children and citizens daily and my Father’s Day gift to myself is recognizing all of the love, support, and caring that comes from one another. I love you all and be blessed.
At the very least, I remember school as a nurturing place that works along with home to instill the foundation that a young person needs to function in life. Schools should mirror home and reinforce the positive life building lessons that we learn as well as nurture our personal growth all within a space that we all feel protected in. At times, many of our youth blossom from the experience and the lessons that are being taught at school. Then, there are times they blossom in spite of our efforts. At Petaluma High School, one young lady excelled in her plight to be the best she can be. Lulabel Seitz is the granddaughter of Filipino immigrants and was raised in a two parent household where the parents left high school early, she succeeded in becoming the valedictorian of her high school with a GPA well over 4.0 and acceptance into Stanford University where she will study applied mathematics and economics. It is evident that this young lady is capable, confident, and courageous for what she has overcome and accomplished.
This past week at her high school graduation, Lulabel Seitz took the opportunity and platform during her Valedictorian speech to address sexual assault on school campuses, an ordeal that Lulabel Seitz says happened to her personally. She said she was suppressed and her voice silenced. As she in fact deviated from her submitted speech and addressed the cover up, her mic was cut off and the delivery of the rest of her speech was denied which eerily seems like the silencing and censoring that she has accused school administrators of.
Though details of the alleged sexual assault are said to be protected by school officials, it seems to me that something on the straight and narrow isn’t going on her. The principal claims that Lulabel Seitz mic was cut because she deviated from the script and that Lulabel was warned and repeatedly instructed not to speak against the faculty in anyway during her speech or else.
I, as a father of a young girl, see these events by the school officials and power that be as worrisome and threatening. If we don’t for one protect our daughters to every extent possible, then we are being a detriment to their livelihood and existence. If we do not intentionally go out of our way to provide not only a safe space for our children to speak out and a viable and amplified platform to speak out against injustices, these injustices will continue.
Though she was censored, Lulabel Seitz actions has sent a clear and precise message of activism. Lulabel Seitz later uploaded to Youtube her entire speech. In her speech, she exclaims, “And even learning on a campus in which some people defend perpetrators of sexual assault and silence their victims, we didn’t let that drag us down. The Class of 2018 has demonstrated time and time again that we may be a new generation but we are not too young to speak up, to dream and to create change.”
We, as parents, guardians and influencers of a younger generations, owe them the comfort of knowing they have a voice and an ear if anything happens to them in life. We are instructed to provide and protect them in any situation in life. This is true of home and school which are probably the two most frequented and sacred places in a young adults life. Young adults like Lulabel Seitz who have the courage to call out and address the social and personal injustices of our community, nation and world are the very change agents that we need to protect in our plight to activate change. I appreciate you Lulabel Seitz for your strength and courage. Thanks for your guidance and leadership
Activism is defined as a doctrine or practice that emphasizes direct vigorous action especially in support of or opposition to one side of a controversial issue.
Before learning the specific term “activism,” it’s been known that blacks have historically positioned themselves as activists within our communities in the United States. Activism isn’t limited to race and it seeks its place among communities all over the world.
Every figure and leader who has exercised their voice and taken action to overturn injustice while educating their oppressors and witnesses to their work have taught us what it means to give voice to the voiceless, hope to the hopeless, and vision to the blind all in the name of change.
Because of the advances in technology, whether we know it or not, most of us are activists in some form through work within our careers, conversations with friends or strangers and through social media activity-digital advocacy, but how we use our voice and position is what makes the difference.
In a world flooded with group-thought and social media persuasion, it’s easy minimize individual thought and nuance or even become conflicted on whether or not you are “doing enough”.
- Am I posting/sharing enough current events?
- Am I up-to-date on what’s happening around the world?
- Frankly, AM I EVEN DOING ENOUGH?
I’ve asked myself these questions while examining the authenticity of others (because we all know those folks who do things just for the glory of trend and attention). But then, I am reminded that the life I live each day is dedicated to doing exactly what people post about.
- There are those who post.
- There are those who act.
- There are those who do some of both.
Both are beneficial, even if the intention isn’t pure because awareness is a significant precursor of activism.
Each day I work within the education system of New Orleans, I face the discomfort of being a black woman working amongst predominately white educators to support both sides and ensure cultural and class differences don’t result in unfair treatment of our students. Time spent supporting families plagued with systemic educational and economical barriers.
Conversations with young black boys and girls about societal standards and privilege and lack thereof. Even my time spent as an education blogger shines light on topics that are often evaded because of politics, but need to be said. This is my fight whether it makes it to the internet or not.
But, do know that this fight does not come without sacrifice. I’ve experienced periods of anxiety as a result of so much exposure and I worry about worldly occurrences of oppression and suffering; becoming envious of those who don’t operate based on emotion connected to social issues. I’ve had to be cautious with who and how I bring up certain questions and issues to avoid becoming angry about reception and the like mindedness of my audience. But even with this occasional discomfort, the stress associated with activism is one I welcome because I know that at the end of the day, it does not go without benefit to someone.
Despite the strain, I know that standing on the front lines has and will continue to make me a better human being overall. It’s challenged me to research more to avoid succumbing to following trends or the majority opinion. It’s made me a stronger thinker and writer, which aids in my confidence while speaking about the plight of my people to others.
Given that this is work one has to decide to opt-in, if done wholeheartedly, it is crucial to know when it’s time to secure your mental and emotional state because fighting on the front-lines gets dangerous and can be a lonely place depending upon one’s support network.
This means ensuring you take time to log-off and unplug. Unplugging can seem like a disadvantage in this work because of the need to remain updated on current events, but in a time where information is so accessible, it can potentially be less harmful than one may think.
Some additional ways I choose to promote balance in my own personal life to maintain the physical and mental strength to continue to work within my community are:
- It’s essential to my serenity and peace, specifically when I become aware of the increase in being worrisome and restless.
- Spending time with my son through learning and play
- The innocence of childhood will forever provide a sense of relief for me. But most importantly, working to save the world and others can’t be at the expense of creating memories and fostering the emotional, physical and spiritual health of my own seed.
- Often done in conjunction with prayer, while I haven’t gotten great at this, when I am still and in the moment before starting my day, it serves a solid preparation for whatever life brings throughout my day.
- Going outdoors and enjoying the simplicity of nature
- An inexpensive and calming measure in this fast-paced world. There are no expectations and this for me is super beneficial.
- Engaging in adult socialization through dinner, etc.
- What better way to relax than time spent with loved ones, whether friends, fam, etc.? Considering that relationships often take a backseat to career and family, remember to take time to foster meaningful friendships and alliances.
- Being physically active- biking, fitness class, swimming, boxing, dance class, etc.
- It’s no doubt the mental stress of social issues has damaging physical effects on our bodies, so exercise is definitely necessary for maintenance of health. Plus, most people aren’t engaging in stressful, wordly conversation during this time because they’re too busy trying to keep up and breath!
- Watching and/or attending sporting events, music concerts, comedy shows etc.
- I love sports, music, and laughing, so any opportunity to see someone display their talents is another healthy escape of the day-to-day.
- Journaling-writing down goals
- As a visual learner, seeing my thoughts illustrated on paper (not the phone) is nostalgic and makes ideas seem easily identifiable and tangible.
So whether your activism is digital or through the work within your career and community, you are influential, you are important and we need you to be your best and healthiest to continue to fight for those who cannot.
While advocacy is optional.
Balance is not.